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3 Reasons Why Most People Can’t Think of Good INFJ Careers for You

What Every INFJ Needs to Keep In Mind When Looking for a Great Job

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One of the biggest challenges for an INFJ is finding a satisfying career.

We’re not content to do just any work. We want to do work that we’re passionate about and that makes a difference in the world.

It doesn’t help that suitable INFJ careers are hard to come by. The world doesn’t have our gifts in mind when it creates job write ups, which is no surprise, considering we’re the rarest personality type.

While well-meaning people will try to give you helpful advice, most of the time their advice ends up being more harmful than it is helpful, especially for INFJs who don’t know themselves well yet.

This begs the question: Why do most people have a hard time thinking of good INFJ careers for you? Let’s look at three reasons.

Why do people suggest bad INFJ careers for you? What should you look out for when you're looking for a suitable job? Read this article to find out!

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How to Improve Your Small Talk in Seconds

5 Mental Hacks for People Who Hate Talking to Strangers

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Would you like to improve your small talk skills?

Many introverts don’t enjoy talking with people they don’t know well about topics they’re not interested in. They’d rather spend time with someone familiar talking about their passion.

No matter how much you dislike small talk, there are times you’ll have to engage in it. It’s a social custom and a good one in that it allows you and an acquaintance to build trust.

I’ve discovered that many of my own problems with small talk have to do with my thoughts. They’re often self-critical, or my focus is misdirected. Changing the way I think about my interactions with other people quickly and significantly improves my small talk. Changing the way you think about yours will do the same for you.

Try these quick hacks to improve your small talk in seconds.

Do you want to improve your small talk skills? Check out these five hacks that will make you better at small talk in a matter of seconds!

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How did your life change when you learned you’re an INFJ?

Grab a Free INFJ Personality Guide!

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Do you remember the day you found out you were an INFJ?

The day I learned I was an INFJ was a turning point for me. I started to feel less like a messed-up, broken outsider and more like a valid human being with unique perspectives and gifts to contribute to the world. I started moving down the path of self-discovery, and the further I went, the more my life started to make sense.

I discovered…

Understanding your INFJ personality type will change your life for the better. Grab a free copy of the INFJ Personality Guide will you still can!

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How to Thrive as an Introvert Married to an Extrovert

5 Ways Introvert-Extrovert Spouses Can Invest in Their Marriage

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Jon flopped on the sofa and reached for the remote. He was looking forward to a night of nothing, after staying late at the office all week. He pressed the power button and flipped the foot rest up on his La-Z-Boy. That’s when Jane marched in.

“You remember that we have dinner plans with the McCoy’s, don’t you? There’s absolutely no way I’m staying in this stuffy, old house any longer. We stayed home last weekend, and I am NOT doing it again!”

Have you ever found yourself in this situation or one like it? If you’re an introvert married to an extrovert, your answer is probably “Yes.”

While introverts and extroverts complement each other and make a great team, their differences can also drive each other nuts, so what can you do to keep the tone of your marriage positive and work through your differences? Consider these six suggestions.

How do you survive as an introvert married to an extrovert, and how do you cultivate a healthy, vibrant relationship? Check out these 6 suggestions.

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What does it feel like to be an introvert?

A Glimpse Inside the Mind of an Introvert

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“What does it feel like to be an introvert?”

Dear extrovert,

I’m glad you asked. I applaud your healthy curiosity and willingness to learn more about the quiet people around you. While I can’t speak for all introverts, I can give you a glimpse of what being an introvert is like for me.

Allow me to take you inside my head for a quick look at what it’s like to be an introvert.

What's it feel like to be an introvert? Have you ever asked that question or wonder what goes on in introverts' minds? If yes, you need to read this.

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What do you do when you get depressed as an INFJ?

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Do you ever get the INFJ blues? I do routinely. One day, I’ll be feeling encouraged and motivated and the next I’ll be down in the dumps. I’m learning that it’s part of being an INFJ.

Just tonight, the dark side of my personality confronted me again. A family member gave me some constructive criticism that I wasn’t expecting, and as he did, the sun disappeared from my proverbial sky.

I hate when I get depressed. I feel trapped and start to question whether or not any of my hopes and dreams will ever come true. Sometimes I just don’t know how to shake the heavy feelings or change my mood.

Have you been there?

While I’m not a counselor and I don’t have it all figured out, I have found several strategies that help me.

Do you ever get the INFJ blues? How do you shake them when you're feeling depressed and you don't know what to do? Here are 9 suggestions that can help.

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What are your biggest introvert struggles?

The Top 5 Introvert Struggles in My Opinion

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What are your biggest introvert struggles?

On what should have been my first day of kindergarten, I hid under the bed, unwilling to trade the quiet familiarity of my home for the unsettling clamor of elementary school. My mother determined that I needed another year of preschool, bless her heart.

Since that time, I’ve managed to integrate somewhat successfully into society at large, but there are still many challenges that confront me as an introvert living in an extroverted culture. They are the same ones that confront every introvert at some time or another.

In this post, I’ll share what are, in my opinion, the top 5 introvert struggles.

What are your biggest introvert struggles? Read this article to find out what challenges every introvert has faced at some time or another.

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Do you, as an INFJ, long to be validated?

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Do you, fellow INFJ, long to be validated?

If you’re like most of us, your answer to that question is a resounding yes. While some disagree, arguing that INFJ logic can eliminate this need, it’s safe to say that most INFJs seek validation from others – especially those closest to them. They want the world to approve of their thoughts and feelings and appreciate them for who they are. But why is this the case? Why do INFJs long to be validated?

Do INFJs seek validation from others? How can I pursue validation in healthy ways? Check out the post to find the answers to these questions!

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What to Do When You Don’t Want to Be Around Extroverts

The Reason Why Extroverts Drain You and What to Do About It

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Picture this. You’re sitting on your porch, enjoying a novel and a cup of coffee, basking in the sunlight. Robins are singing, and there’s a pleasant chill lingering in the air. It’s the perfect morning.

Suddenly, unannounced and uninvited, your rowdy neighbor rolls up in his Mustang. Windows down and “Stones” blaring, he yells from the street up to your porch, startling you and ruining the moment. For no good reason, he tries to start a conversation from 50 feet away, eliminating all but the memory of your peace and quiet. This is your plight, an introvert in an extroverted world.

While you may never have experienced the above scenario, I’ll bet you’ve been…

  • Interrupted when trying to concentrate
  • Talked over while getting your thoughts together
  • Put down for needing more alone time

Your struggle is real, so you wonder: Why are extroverts so draining?

Let’s take a look at a possible explanation, specific circumstances where extroverts frustrate you, and some potential solutions.

Ever wonder why extroverts drain you? Want figure out how to live and work with them without losing all your energy? Check out this post.

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How to Break Free of Your INFJ Perfectionism

Four Steps for Turning Your Big Ideas into Reality and Making a Difference in the World

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Perfectionism has stopped me in my tracks more times than I care to remember. I’ve had numerous brilliant ideas and exciting dreams that I’ve given up on before ever starting because I’m afraid of subpar results. This is a challenge that all INFJs wrestle with at some point.

Your INFJ ability to see the future and vivid possibilities gets you all-kinds-of-excited about an idea, while your idealism weighs you down like an anchor, forbidding you to make a move.

The predicament is that you’ll never be happy until you begin to take action and realize your dreams.

If you’re tired of letting perfectionism hold you back from your potential, here are a few suggestions that may help you overcome your perfectionism and take more action.

Are you tired of letting your INFJ perfectionism hold you back from your potential? Check out these four practical steps for breaking free!