A Gallup poll from 2013 revealed that 50 percent of working Americans are disengaged with their work, while another 20 percent are actively disengaged. Worse yet, job dissatisfaction is probably killing people. Dan Miller observes that more people die of heart attacks on Monday morning than any other time of the week. Could it be that victims are coming off of an enjoyable weekend, dreading going back to a job they hate?
When you get down to it, a job gives each of us a sense of dignity. Most people find purpose and worth in the work they do. When people can’t work – or they get stuck doing work that’s not a good fit for them – they get depressed or worse.
In December of 2010, Tunisian police confiscated Mohamed Bouazizi’s produce cart and scales because he didn’t have a vending permit. Bouazizi then went to the governor’s office to complain, but no one would see him. He felt desperate and helpless with no way to feed his family, so to protest, he doused himself with gasoline and lit himself on fire.
Work is important; there’s no way around it. Everyone wants to do significant work. Furthermore, the average person will spend more time with coworkers at work over the course of her life than she will with her family. It’s important, then, that each of us finds the right job.
So where is the best work for you to do? How can you find a job you love as an introvert?
Why do people underestimate me, and what can I do about it?
Have you asked that question? If you’re a quiet, thoughtful introvert, chances are good you have. It’s easy to get frustrated when people assume you don’t have much to offer just because they can’t physically observe your gifts.
Getting better acquainted with the cause of the problem will help you work toward a solution.
How do you throw the perfect introvert party?
When you think of the typical party-going crowd, I doubt you picture introverts. Most would rather be at home, safe from loud music and incessant chatter, enjoying a book, movie, or quiet time alone.
Just a week ago, a friend of mine told me how much he was dreading a party his wife would be hosting at their house. She was going to have her girlfriends over, as well as their husbands and children. While my friend’s wife had great relationships with her pals, my friend did not enjoy relating to the husbands. He hardly knew them.
He also remembered how their children had wandered his house unsupervised the last time his wife’s friends were over. One of them had ransacked the bathroom and squeezed soap all over the floor. Worst of all, my friend told me that the upcoming party had no cutoff time, so he had no idea when everyone would finally be gone.
No introvert in his right mind would enjoy that kind of party. There is, however, a way to have a successful introvert party. You just have to keep in mind 11 secrets.
How do you get to know an introvert date?
If you’ve ever pursued an introvert, you know introverts can be hard to get to know, and if you are one, you probably know that you don’t let your guard down with just anybody. When an introvert does open up, she does so gradually, over time. This is in stark contrast to most extroverts who reveal a lot about themselves from the get-go.
When you’re interested in a person and he’s slow to share about himself, it’s easy to lose interest, get frustrated, and move on. But if you do, you might miss out on a great future spouse. Are you willing to take that risk?
If you want to get to know an introvert but aren’t sure how to go about it, consider these three tips.
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How do you know if you – or someone you love – is an ISTP?
ISTPs are one of eight Myers-Briggs introvert personality types. They are marvelous in-the-moment, hands-on problem solvers. The first thing you might notice about an ISTP is her ability to come up with creative solutions using what’s around her.
Once when I was playing music with friends, we were having trouble mounting a new microphone. We lacked the proper attachment to connect the mike to a stand. Fortunately, there was an ISTP among us. In about five minutes, he came up with a way to zip-tie the mic to a stand so that we could move ahead with the recording process.
What really makes an ISTP shine is his ability to figure out how a system works. Whether he’s studying a car, combine, or computer, he’ll learn each of the parts and how they work together. Then, with this in-depth understanding, he’ll be able to quickly diagnose and fix any problems that arise.
ISTPs are introverts with an eye for detail and an appreciation for efficiency. They’re thinkers through-and-through, but they also savor new experiences, spontaneity, and variety.
To give you a first-hand look at how an ISTP thinks, I interviewed a good friend of mine and asked him eight questions that get to the heart of the ISTP personality. As you read his responses, think about yourself – or that person you know or love – and see if the ISTP introvert personality type is a good fit.
(To determine your own personality type, check out this series.)
Do you ever struggle to contribute during meetings? Do you wonder how to talk more?
When I first started at my current job several years ago, I had the hardest time chiming in during meetings. While my colleagues were exchanging and evaluating ideas, I sat quietly. I was engaged, and I was listening, but I seldom spoke up for one of two reasons: I either couldn’t think of anything to say during the meeting, or I didn’t know how to jump into a faced-paced conversation.
As a result, I left many meetings wondering what people thought of me and wishing I’d said more. The frustrating thing was that as soon as I’d return to my workspace a flood of ideas and insights related to what was discussed would rush into my mind.
It can be hard to be the introvert in a meeting. You know you have valuable ideas and insights, but the environment makes sharing difficult. Fortunately, there are few hacks that’ll significantly improve your meeting experiences.
What makes an introvert happy? Really happy?
The answer to that question may surprise you – especially if you’re not an introvert. But it’s worth finding out if you’re friends with, dating, or married to one.
And while there are a variety of introvert personality types, certain things – many of which are FREE – appeal to almost all introverts. So if you’re aiming to make your introvert’s day or you’re a quiet person looking to have some fun, I suggest you try out a few of the following ideas.
What’s the fear of looking bad costing you?
- More friends?
- A date?
- Your dream work?
- Business relationships?
- Wasted potential?
It’s amazing what fear does to us.
This summer, I was scared to death to invite my Facebook friends to like my blog. I know it sounds stupid, but I was certain that as soon as I started asking people to like my page, that would be the end of our relationship for good. They’d think I was an idiot, and my life would be over.
The same thing happened when I was getting ready to launch my podcast. “You know, Bo. No one’s going to want to listen to you,” I told myself. “Who says you even know what you’re talking about anyway?”
When we really want to do something – something we’re passionate about – we’re so good at coming up with excuses. And at the heart of each one is fear. We’re deathly afraid of making fools of ourselves.
But we’ll never achieve what we really want to until we go ahead and put ourselves out there!
The good news is that you don’t have to let fear chain you. If you change the way you think, you can change your future. Proverbs 23:7 says it well: “For as [a person] thinks within himself, so he is.”
INFPs are one of the rarer introvert personality types, making up about four percent of the population. Because they are artistic, sensitive, nonconformists, they’re also quite unique. Over the past 10 years, I’ve gotten to know a few INFPs decently well. And I can attest that there’s a lot to love about these one-of-a-kind introverts.
Here are 7 reasons I love the INFP personality type.
Introverts – we’re a lot more complex than we may seem at first.
This past summer, I finished Susan Cain’s book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking. Cain is easily one of the most widely-known and well-respected experts on introverts. And she’s doing a great job telling the world why introverts are valuable just the way they are.
While I enjoyed most of her book, I did leave with one impression that got me thinking. In her effort to explain introvert strengths, I felt as though she’d described all introverts as a melting pot of various strengths and skills. As a result, I came away from the book thinking, Introverts are creative, analytical, detail-oriented, organized, big-picture thinkers.
In Cain’s defense, that was just the impression that I left with. On the whole, her book did a masterful job addressing and championing the topic of introversion. It’s still doing big things for the cause of introverts. Nevertheless, I couldn’t help but want to set the record straight – at least in my own mind.
So what traits really do set introverts apart? Let’s a take a look.