How do you see yourself, and where does your self-image come from?
These are questions many INFJs naturally spend a lot of time mulling over. We’re wired to think deeply about identity, both our own and others’. We also tend to care quite a bit about what other people think of us.
No doubt your family, community, and the culture in which you grew up influenced your self-image and the way you see yourself. But what else?
In the series on INFJ Superpowers, we discussed your greatest strengths. A critical follow-up question to that conversation is: How do I maximize Ni, my greatest strength?
Developing and learning how to use introverted intuition more effectively can…
- Increase your productivity
- Improve your confidence
- Bring you greater joy
- Reduce frustrations
- And even open up new opportunities
So let’s take a look at 4 important factors that will help you maximize Ni.
In part one of this series, you read about INFJs’ Ni-driven gifts, and, in part two, you learned about Fe-driven strengths. But now these questions still need to be answered: How do the two cognitive functions work together? And what are your Ni-Fe-driven gifts?
In this article, number three in the INFJ Superpowers series, we’ll examine several abilities that are the products of introverted intuition (Ni) and extroverted feeling (Fe) synergizing.
Read on to learn how your top two cognitive functions work together to give you your Ni-Fe-Driven gifts.
(To better understand INFJ cognitive functions, grab a free copy of my eBook, The INFJ Personality Guide.)
Do you ever find yourself fixating on an idea, theory, problem, or thought? Do you struggle to get what you’re thinking about out of your head?
For a week or so, I’ve been getting headaches because my computer monitors are too low. My wife pointed this out and recommended that I get monitor risers for them. She made this observation last week, but I haven’t been able to get it out of my head today.
“My dad could help you build some,” she suggested. While I liked that solution at first, I know it’ll probably take a few weeks to execute. I want to check this problem off of my to-do list stat. And so I keep researching and thinking about solutions. Meanwhile, I’m putting off other responsibilities.
Can you relate? This dilemma confronts me on regular basis. If it’s not a piece of tech gear, it’s a question, theory, or idea that the curious, creative side of me has to pursue.
Whether you get caught up in thinking about computer monitor risers or theories and ideas, know that you’re in good company. Most INFJs “get stuck” fixating from time to time.
So Why does this happen? And What can you do about it? I offer you the following explanation and a few practical solutions.
Do you ever tell people what they want to hear to keep the peace, even though you don’t completely agree with what you’re saying?
I’m cringing as I write, but I’m 100% guilty of this. If I’m working with a teaching colleague, for instance, and he asks me my opinion of an instructional strategy or lesson plan framework we’re putting together, I’ll often tell him I like the approach we’re taking even when I don’t.
I do this mostly when I know the approach is…
- Something he thought up
- Something he believes in strongly
- The strategy doesn’t violate my beliefs or values
I compromise thinking it will benefit our partnership, but I wish I were more forthright. It’s just that I absolutely hate interpersonal conflict.
My wife’s been calling me on the carpet recently. She tells me it’s a significant issue that won’t go away unless I do something about it. While I know she’s right, I’m so used to withdrawing, playing along, or working by myself to avoid a spat I don’t want to think about change.
Can you relate?
Is there ever a good reason why you and I should risk conflict? Are the possible gains worth the potential interpersonal turmoil and hurt?
Check out these 5 reasons you should consider “rocking the boat” more often.
What’s the secret to making this year your best ever?
In his book Next Generation Leader, Andy Stanley outlines 5 things that accelerate people’s personal growth (whether they’re leaders or not):
Of the 5 things, the one that stood out to me most was coaching.
Stanley says, “You will never maximize your potential in any area without coaching. It is impossible.” Those are strong words, but they line up with my experience.
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Over the past 3 to 4 years, I’ve had 2 people pouring into me that have made a tremendous difference in my life. One of them I met through my church. The other I paid to coach me.
What’s true about both of them is that they’ve saved me HOURS! I don’t waste nearly as much time trying to figure out what to do or where to go because I have trusted guides to turn to. They’ve been where I want to go, and they show me the way. Their guidance has made all the difference for me.
I never thought I’d…
- Start a blog
- Launch a podcast
- Write an eBook
- Create a course
But they helped me do it. Fast.
Your goals may be different than mine, but I know you’ve got dreams. Start by believing you can make them a reality. Then, find a mentor.
If you’re not sure where to look, check out these 4 proven strategies that’ll connect you with the right guides!