Do you ever tell people what they want to hear to keep the peace, even though you don’t completely agree with what you’re saying?
I’m cringing as I write, but I’m 100% guilty of this. If I’m working with a teaching colleague, for instance, and he asks me my opinion of an instructional strategy or lesson plan framework we’re putting together, I’ll often tell him I like the approach we’re taking even when I don’t.
I do this mostly when I know the approach is…
- Something he thought up
- Something he believes in strongly
- The strategy doesn’t violate my beliefs or values
I compromise thinking it will benefit our partnership, but I wish I were more forthright. It’s just that I absolutely hate interpersonal conflict.
My wife’s been calling me on the carpet recently. She tells me it’s a significant issue that won’t go away unless I do something about it. While I know she’s right, I’m so used to withdrawing, playing along, or working by myself to avoid a spat I don’t want to think about change.
Can you relate?
Is there ever a good reason why you and I should risk conflict? Are the possible gains worth the potential interpersonal turmoil and hurt?
Check out these 5 reasons you should consider “rocking the boat” more often.
What’s the secret to making this year your best ever?
In his book Next Generation Leader, Andy Stanley outlines 5 things that accelerate people’s personal growth (whether they’re leaders or not):
Of the 5 things, the one that stood out to me most was coaching.
Stanley says, “You will never maximize your potential in any area without coaching. It is impossible.” Those are strong words, but they line up with my experience.
Over the past 3 to 4 years, I’ve had 2 people pouring into me that have made a tremendous difference in my life. One of them I met through my church. The other I paid to coach me.
What’s true about both of them is that they’ve saved me HOURS! I don’t waste nearly as much time trying to figure out what to do or where to go because I have trusted guides to turn to. They’ve been where I want to go, and they show me the way. Their guidance has made all the difference for me.
I never thought I’d…
- Start a blog
- Launch a podcast
- Write an eBook
- Create a course
But they helped me do it. Fast.
Your goals may be different than mine, but I know you’ve got dreams. Start by believing you can make them a reality. Then, find a mentor.
If you’re not sure where to look, check out these 4 proven strategies that’ll connect you with the right guides!