INFJs, You Need to Know These 4 Things About Finding a Spouse

What’s the best way to find a spouse as an INFJ?

When I was single, I got tired of waiting for the love of my life to show up on my doorstep. Looking back, I guess I’d expected to bump into her. I didn’t anticipate any effort on my part, at least when it came to searching.

But then I read a Proverb that changed my perspective: “He who finds a wife finds what is good.” The word that hit me in that statement was “find.” I realized could find a wife like finding a penny on the sidewalk, without any effort. Or I could find her like finding my lost iPhone when I’m intentionally looking for it.

Armed with this new perspective and motivated by a healthy discontentment, I took the first step I could think of.

How do you find your future spouse as an INFJ? Knowing these four things can help you significantly in your search to find the love of your life.

4 Reasons Why Intuitives Make Great Friends for INFJs

What do most INFJs long for? Answer: Real, authentic friendships.

They want to be known and appreciated for who they are. They want someone to empathize with and understand them in the way they do other people. The challenge is finding someone who appreciates what you do and the way you think in a world where the vast majority of people operate so differently.

The more I reflect on my own life and relationships, the more I realize how important friendships with other intuitives are. Some of the friendships that I enjoy most are with INTPs, INFPs, ENFPs, and the like. The way we approach life and things we care about are similar.

Today, let’s take a brief look at why relationships with other intuitives can be both refreshing and rewarding for you as an INFJ.

What personality types make the best friends for you as an INFJ? If you're wondering this, check out why intuitives can be great companions.

21 Ways You Can Make and Keep Great Friends as an INFJ

What are the best ways for an INFJ to make and keep great friends?

One of the challenges of being an INFJ is that you love to help others, particularly through nonjudgemental listening, open acceptance, and thoughtful advice, but you seldom open up and allow your true self to be known. Though you long for that very thing and crave the support and encouragement of others, the trust-building process can be slow and difficult.

But you, like every INFJ, need quality friendships. There’s no doubt about it. Still, how do you make and keep awesome friends as an INFJ? Consider the following 21 ideas.

What are the best ways for an INFJ to make and keep great friends? Check out this article and learn 21 proven tactics for INFJs like you.

How to Improve Your Small Talk in Seconds

5 Mental Hacks for People Who Hate Talking to Strangers

Would you like to improve your small talk skills?

Many introverts don’t enjoy talking with people they don’t know well about topics they’re not interested in. They’d rather spend time with someone familiar talking about their passion.

No matter how much you dislike small talk, there are times you’ll have to engage in it. It’s a social custom and a good one in that it allows you and an acquaintance to build trust.

I’ve discovered that many of my own problems with small talk have to do with my thoughts. They’re often self-critical, or my focus is misdirected. Changing the way I think about my interactions with other people quickly and significantly improves my small talk. Changing the way you think about yours will do the same for you.

Try these quick hacks to improve your small talk in seconds.

Do you want to improve your small talk skills? Check out these five hacks that will make you better at small talk in a matter of seconds!

How to Thrive as an Introvert Married to an Extrovert

5 Ways Introvert-Extrovert Spouses Can Invest in Their Marriage

Jon flopped on the sofa and reached for the remote. He was looking forward to a night of nothing, after staying late at the office all week. He pressed the power button and flipped the foot rest up on his La-Z-Boy. That’s when Jane marched in.

“You remember that we have dinner plans with the McCoy’s, don’t you? There’s absolutely no way I’m staying in this stuffy, old house any longer. We stayed home last weekend, and I am NOT doing it again!”

Have you ever found yourself in this situation or one like it? If you’re an introvert married to an extrovert, your answer is probably “Yes.”

While introverts and extroverts complement each other and make a great team, their differences can also drive each other nuts, so what can you do to keep the tone of your marriage positive and work through your differences? Consider these six suggestions.

How do you survive as an introvert married to an extrovert, and how do you cultivate a healthy, vibrant relationship? Check out these 6 suggestions.

What to Do When You Don’t Want to Be Around Extroverts (Podcast)

What do you do when you don’t want to be around extroverts? More specifically, how can you live happily with the extroverts in your life with out getting overly drained or frustrated?

In this episode of the I Speak People show, we discuss those questions and explore the biological differences between introverts and extroverts. We also talk about three common situations where introverts and extroverts butt heads as well as some possible solutions that can help you through those circumstances when they arise.

Ever wonder why extroverts drain you? Want figure out how to live and work with them without losing all your energy? Check out this post.

What to Do When You Don’t Want to Be Around Extroverts

The Reason Why Extroverts Drain You and What to Do About It

Picture this. You’re sitting on your porch, enjoying a novel and a cup of coffee, basking in the sunlight. Robins are singing, and there’s a pleasant chill lingering in the air. It’s the perfect morning.

Suddenly, unannounced and uninvited, your rowdy neighbor rolls up in his Mustang. Windows down and “Stones” blaring, he yells from the street up to your porch, startling you and ruining the moment. For no good reason, he tries to start a conversation from 50 feet away, eliminating all but the memory of your peace and quiet. This is your plight, an introvert in an extroverted world.

While you may never have experienced the above scenario, I’ll bet you’ve been…

  • Interrupted when trying to concentrate
  • Talked over while getting your thoughts together
  • Put down for needing more alone time

Your struggle is real, so you wonder: Why are extroverts so draining?

Let’s take a look at a possible explanation, specific circumstances where extroverts frustrate you, and some potential solutions.

Ever wonder why extroverts drain you? Want figure out how to live and work with them without losing all your energy? Check out this post.

How to Stay in Touch with Friends as an Introvert

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How do you stay in touch with friends as an introvert?

As an introvert, you probably prefer staying home to going out and love alone time. After all, it’s hard to beat peace and quiet: Every introvert needs both to recharge.

There’s just one problem with being alone all the time. You can’t do it AND have friends. Friendships, like all relationships, take time and energy.

And all introverts do need friends. So there’s a tension to be managed here.

We need to stay sufficiently connected while ensuring we have adequate downtime.

So how do you do that? In today’s show, I share my simple 5-part system. (If you want to read the post version of the podcast, CLICK HERE.)
Want to stay in touch with friends as an introvert? I've developed a simple system that can help you do a better job keeping up. Check it out!

11 Secrets of the Perfect Introvert Party

How do you throw the perfect introvert party?

When you think of the typical party-going crowd, I doubt you picture introverts. Most would rather be at home, safe from loud music and incessant chatter, enjoying a book, movie, or quiet time alone.

Just a week ago, a friend of mine told me how much he was dreading a party his wife would be hosting at their house. She was going to have her girlfriends over, as well as their husbands and children. While my friend’s wife had great relationships with her pals, my friend did not enjoy relating to the husbands. He hardly knew them.

He also remembered how their children had wandered his house unsupervised the last time his wife’s friends were over. One of them had ransacked the bathroom and squeezed soap all over the floor. Worst of all, my friend told me that the upcoming party had no cutoff time, so he had no idea when everyone would finally be gone.

No introvert in his right mind would enjoy that kind of party. There is, however, a way to have a successful introvert party. You just have to keep in mind 11 secrets.

How do you throw the perfect introvert party? Check out this post and discover 10 secrets to creating a party atmosphere any introvert will love!

How to Get to Know Your Introvert Date

3 Tips for a Better Relationship with Your Introvert

How do you get to know an introvert date?

If you’ve ever pursued an introvert, you know introverts can be hard to get to know, and if you are one, you probably know that you don’t let your guard down with just anybody. When an introvert does open up, she does so gradually, over time. This is in stark contrast to most extroverts who reveal a lot about themselves from the get-go.

When you’re interested in a person and he’s slow to share about himself, it’s easy to lose interest, get frustrated, and move on. But if you do, you might miss out on a great future spouse. Are you willing to take that risk?

If you want to get to know an introvert but aren’t sure how to go about it, consider these three tips.

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How do you get to know an introvert date? If you want to get to know an introvert but aren't sure how to go about it, check out these three tips!