“You always need a mountain to climb.”
That’s what my father often told my mother. What he meant was that she was happiest when learning a new skill, solving a problem, or tackling a difficult challenge. She’d never be content following the same old processes and procedures for any length of time.
This is true of INFJs too. We’re often happiest when we’re learning new skills and researching interesting topics.
Last week, another INFJ reminded me how much we love to learn and grow. He said he’d typically move onto a new skill or topic every two years. Once he’d master something, he’d lose interest, even if he was good enough to garner 1.3 million views on YouTube.
Can you relate? Do you bounce from interest to interest every couple years? Or do you wonder whether or not you have the capacity to stick with a skill or interest for any length of time?
What’s an INFJ’s greatest opportunity for growth? Answer: Extroverted feeling (Fe).
In plain English, Fe is the ability to pick up on people’s emotions and promote group harmony. It zeroes in on pleasing others. And it’s the reason so many INFJs are excellent caretakers, listeners, and humanitarians.
Fe is also a function that INFJs develop over time. While it doesn’t come as quickly or naturally as introverted intuition (Ni), INFJs’ dominant cognitive function (or mindset), it’s still vital to personal growth.
In general, INFJs with a strong grasp of Fe enjoy…
- Better social skills and emotional intelligence
- More opportunities to influence others with their ideas, theories, and observations
- Healthier relationships with family, friends, and coworkers
- A greater long-term impact on the world
So if you really want to grow as an INFJ, you’d be wise to intentionally exercise this function. In this article, we’ll take a deeper look at why Fe is an INFJ’s greatest opportunity for growth as well as explore several specific ways you can develop it.
Do you have a hard time putting what’s in your head into words? Do you wish you could speak more clearly and that others understood you better?
If you answered “yes,” you’re not alone. Many INFJs struggle to keep their words succinct and to-the-point because there’s so much going on in their minds all at once. At any given moment, an INFJ may be…
- Tracing patterns
- Searching for underlying meanings
- Processing verbal and nonverbal signals
- Replaying a prior conversation
- Wrestling with deep questions
- Figuring out which feelings are hers and which are someone else’s
- Planning the future
The INFJ mind is a gift and curse: it allows an INFJ to make incredible connections, see the big picture, and predict likely futures. But it also makes clear, linear communication a challenge.
And to-the-point, straightforward talk is what most people in the world are looking for.
The good news is that you can improve your communication skills. If you’d like to get better at sharing what’s on your mind clearly and concisely, check out these five strategies.
Do you ever wish you had more confidence?
A lot of INFJs do. Most are intelligent, creative, caring people, but they fall prey to feelings of inferiority and brokenness because they think and behave so differently than the rest of the world.
It doesn’t help that INFJs tend to be perfectionists either. While they often extend grace to others, they’re demanding of themselves.
And when the world constantly reminds you that you’re different and you have to measure up to your own high standards, it’s easy to start beating yourself up. It’s no surprise, then, that many INFJs could use a confidence boost.
The good news is that your confidence is like a muscle: You can strengthen it through regular exercise. Here are 5 ways to do just that.
How do you have the perfect day as an INFJ?
By “perfect day” I’m referring to the way you’d organize your day if you were completely in control of it.
Many of us work jobs or have responsibilities that require us to begin the day working in an area of weakness while leaving our strengths on the shelf. For instance, you may have to start by cooking breakfast for your family or you may have to answer emails first thing in the morning at your job when you’d rather be learning, advising, or creating.
Elaine Schallock of PersonalityJunkie.com theorizes that, if given the choice, INFJs would be happiest working through their functional stack, or four mindsets, starting with our greatest strength and ending with our weakness. Would scheduling your day as I describe in the rest of the article make it more meaningful, productive, and enjoyable?
What’s the perfect INFJ career?
Recently, I’ve corresponded with INFJ…
- Landscape architects
- Furniture designers
- Graphic designers
- Art instructors
- Child development specialists
And that’s by no means an exhaustive list. It just gives you an idea of the scope of opportunities available to INFJs seeking meaningful work. Almost every INFJ I’ve ever met has struggled at some point to find work that excites her. She wants a job she’s passionate about that makes a difference in the world, and she wants to be able to express her creativity, original thought, and uniqueness. But given the above list, there’s clearly no one-size-fits-all job for the INFJ.
There are, however, several guiding principles you should keep in mind as you pursue fulfilling work.
Believe it or not, your introversion gives you a networking advantage. This runs contrary to popular belief and perhaps your own experience.
You and I both know that, as introverts, we lose energy when talking to a group of new people. What’s more, we despise small talk. Really, we’d rather be at home with a book or with a few close friends than at a networking function of any size.
But, truth be told, your introversion is really a gift, when it comes to networking. Check out 5 ways your introversion makes you an extraordinary networker.
Are you an introvert wanting to take your networking skills to the next level?
Changing your thoughts can make all the difference in your networking success. In this episode of the I Speak People Show, author Michal Stawicki explains why the ways you think about yourself, other people, and networking make an enormous difference in your ability to network. Over the course of the interview, we discuss…
- Personal Development – especially as it pertains to the way you think about yourself
- Common problems introverts face when they network
- Solutions to those problems
- The importance of generosity and consistency in networking
- A slew of powerful books
One of my introvert friends has been blogging for a while, and only I just found out. When I read his work for the first time, it gave me goosebumps. He has the gift, and I’d wager you do too.
As an introvert, you are especially well equipped to write. In The Introvert Advantage, Martin Olsen Laney, Psy.D. explains that the pathway from an introvert’s brain to her mouth is longer than the same pathway in an extrovert. Extroverts are wired to talk, while introverts are born to reflect, and reflection is essential to good writing.
Jennifer Kahnweiler, in her book Quiet Influence, also underscores the fact that introverts are writers. She says writing gives introverts time to get their thoughts together and present them exactly how they want to. It incorporates research too, which is another introvert strength. Introverts excel at finding and incorporating ideas that make their work both interesting and compelling.
Check out these seven reasons YOU need a blog – even if you don’t think you do.
What would you do with more energy?
As an introvert, you need to be especially careful with how you spend your energy. In this episode of the I Speak People Show, you’ll learn four proven ways you can boost your energy as an introvert.
To help you apply what you learn today, make sure you grab a copy of the Boost Your Energy for Introverts Checklist.