Two Major Causes of INFJ Stress

What stresses out an INFJ?

At work, I’m usually most stressed out when I have to juggle a number of responsibilities at the same time. When I’m working on an evaluation, doling out makeup assessments, tracking missed homework, answering the phone during lessons, responding to emails, turning in behavior updates, adding calendar events, and contacting parents – often at the same time – I feel more than a bit overwhelmed. None of the tasks or to-dos by itself is too much, but juggling several at once is too much.

Other times, the major source of stress in my life is interpersonal conflict – or at least perceived interpersonal conflict. To get my point across, I have to get to the bottom line fast and be extremely direct. Otherwise, certain people won’t listen to me. And since we INFJs like to be careful, kind, and encouraging with our words, direct communication can seem harsh and insensitive, so we try to avoid it at all costs.

Why are details and direct communication so stressful for an INFJ? And what can we do about them?

What stresses out an INFJ and why? A brief look at the source of your stress - details and direct communication - can lead to significant relief and, if nothing else, the understanding that there's nothing wrong with you. Read more here.

How to Find Someone Interesting to Talk to

Can we talk about something interesting? Part 2

In a previous post, I shared several suggestions that can help you enjoy more interesting conversations. The strategies are most helpful when you’re talking to down-to-earth, practical, “here-and-now” people. When these folks are friends, family members, or coworkers, the work it takes to go deep is often worth the results.

But how can you have a conversation that you’ll really enjoy? And how can you find a suitable conversation partner who shares your passions and interests?

How can you go deep and find someone interesting to talk to? Who or what should you be looking for, and what are some practical steps that'll make a difference for you fast? Read this post to find out.

INFJ or ISFJ – What’s the difference?

Determine whether you're an INFJ or ISFJ.

“Am I an INFJ or ISFJ?” Have you ever asked that question?

When you’re initially trying to figure out which personality type fits you better, it can be a bit confusing – especially if you’re relying solely on the preferences (e.g. I/E, N/S, etc.).

If you look a bit deeper, and keep in mind a few general tendencies and patterns that are true of each type, figuring out which you are becomes a bit easier.

To that end, let’s take a look at several differences between INFJs and ISFJs to help you tell which you are.

Not sure whether you're an INFJ or ISFJ? Want to learn some of the core differences between each of the types. Read this article.

The Best Careers for an INFJ

12 of the Top Jobs for People with the INFJ Personality Type

What’re the best careers for an INFJ?

No one-size-fits-all INFJ career exists. If you want to find the right work for you, you’ve got to consider your…

  • passions
  • interests
  • life-experience
  • gifts
  • etc.

And I’m a big believer in the idea that you could do many jobs in any field, so long as they honor your unique, INFJ wiring.

But after doing some research, it’s clear that some careers for an INFJ are often better than others. Let’s explore 12 popular ones.

What are the best careers for an INFJ? The ones that will energize and suit your personality? Check out this article to learn about 12 popular careers for the INFJ personality type.

23 INFJ Superpowers – Part 2

Fe-Driven Gifts

As we saw in part one of this series on INFJ Superpowers, introverted intuition (Ni) is an amazing treasure trove of gifts for INFJs. But Ni isn’t the only cognitive function that enables INFJs to do what they do best.

Even though INFJs are introverts, they have an extroverted side to them too. It’s called extroverted feeling (Fe). Fe is the most conscious extroverted cognitive function, or mindset, in an INFJ’s function stack and a powerful force in his or her personality. (Check out my free eBook to learn more about the INFJ function stack.)

In this article, we’ll take a look why Fe is so important. We’ll also explore six more INFJ superpowers.

INFJs are often compassionate, kind, and thoughtful. Their kindness and desire to help others give rise to a number of wonderful gifts. Check out this article to learn more about them!

23 INFJ Superpowers – Part 1

Ni-Driven Strengths

Recently, a group of fellow INFJs and I were discussing INFJ Superpowers, the things that we do better than other personality types. The discussion invariably turned to INFJ cognitive functions, or mindsets, and the first and second ones in particular (introverted intuition and extroverted feeling). During our discussion, we tossed around a number of ideas that fit into three main categories:

Over the next three weeks, we’ll take a look at each of these three categories, in turn, starting with Ni-driven strengths. By the end, hopefully, you’ll come away with knowledge that will help you…

  • Better understand what you bring to the table when you’re working with a team
  • Help you focus and maximize your personal development
  • Increase your impact on the world
  • Enjoy life more as you start engaging in energizing activities that yield better results

And by the way, this is by no means an exhaustive list. So please add your own thoughts, insights, and reflections in the comments below.

What are your INFJ superpowers? What are your greatest strengths? Check out this article to learn a number of things you likely do far better than the average person.

How to Discover What Will Hold Your Interest for Years (for INFJs)

“You always need a mountain to climb.”

That’s what my father often told my mother. What he meant was that she was happiest when learning a new skill, solving a problem, or tackling a difficult challenge. She’d never be content following the same old processes and procedures for any length of time.

This is true of INFJs too. We’re often happiest when we’re learning new skills and researching interesting topics.

Last week, another INFJ reminded me how much we love to learn and grow. He said he’d typically move onto a new skill or topic every two years. Once he’d master something, he’d lose interest, even if he was good enough to garner 1.3 million views on YouTube.

Can you relate? Do you bounce from interest to interest every couple years? Or do you wonder whether or not you have the capacity to stick with a skill or interest for any length of time?

Are you an INFJ who changes your interest every couple of years? Would you like to stick with one thing longer? Check out this article to learn how!

What’s an INFJs greatest opportunity for growth?

What’s an INFJ’s greatest opportunity for growth? Answer: Extroverted feeling (Fe).

In plain English, Fe is the ability to pick up on people’s emotions and promote group harmony. It zeroes in on pleasing others. And it’s the reason so many INFJs are excellent caretakers, listeners, and humanitarians.

Fe is also a function that INFJs develop over time. While it doesn’t come as quickly or naturally as introverted intuition (Ni), INFJs’ dominant cognitive function (or mindset), it’s still vital to personal growth.

In general, INFJs with a strong grasp of Fe enjoy…

  • Better social skills and emotional intelligence
  • More opportunities to influence others with their ideas, theories, and observations
  • Healthier relationships with family, friends, and coworkers
  • A greater long-term impact on the world

So if you really want to grow as an INFJ, you’d be wise to intentionally exercise this function. In this article, we’ll take a deeper look at why Fe is an INFJ’s greatest opportunity for growth as well as explore several specific ways you can develop it.

What's an INFJ's greatest opportunity for growth? How can you share your insights to help others and make a difference in the world? Click here to find out!

How to Speak More Clearly as an INFJ

Do you have a hard time putting what’s in your head into words? Do you wish you could speak more clearly and that others understood you better?

If you answered “yes,” you’re not alone. Many INFJs struggle to keep their words succinct and to-the-point because there’s so much going on in their minds all at once. At any given moment, an INFJ may be…

  • Tracing patterns
  • Searching for underlying meanings
  • Processing verbal and nonverbal signals
  • Replaying a prior conversation
  • Wrestling with deep questions
  • Figuring out which feelings are hers and which are someone else’s
  • Planning the future
  • Etc.

The INFJ mind is a gift and curse: it allows an INFJ to make incredible connections, see the big picture, and predict likely futures. But it also makes clear, linear communication a challenge.

And to-the-point, straightforward talk is what most people in the world are looking for.

The good news is that you can improve your communication skills. If you’d like to get better at sharing what’s on your mind clearly and concisely, check out these five strategies.

Are you an INFJ who wants to speak more clearly? Yes? Check out this article to learn 5 ways you can improve your verbal communication.

How to Be More Confident as an INFJ

Do you ever wish you had more confidence?

A lot of INFJs do. Most are intelligent, creative, caring people, but they fall prey to feelings of inferiority and brokenness because they think and behave so differently than the rest of the world.

It doesn’t help that INFJs tend to be perfectionists either. While they often extend grace to others, they’re demanding of themselves.

And when the world constantly reminds you that you’re different and you have to measure up to your own high standards, it’s easy to start beating yourself up. It’s no surprise, then, that many INFJs could use a confidence boost.

The good news is that your confidence is like a muscle: You can strengthen it through regular exercise. Here are 5 ways to do just that.

How can you be a more confident INFJ? Don't let feelings of inferiority and brokenness boss you around anymore. Try these 5 things to boost your confidence!