Do you ever struggle to contribute during meetings? Do you wonder how to talk more?
When I first started at my current job several years ago, I had the hardest time chiming in during meetings. While my colleagues were exchanging and evaluating ideas, I sat quietly. I was engaged, and I was listening, but I seldom spoke up for one of two reasons: I either couldn’t think of anything to say during the meeting, or I didn’t know how to jump into a faced-paced conversation.
As a result, I left many meetings wondering what people thought of me and wishing I’d said more. The frustrating thing was that as soon as I’d return to my workspace a flood of ideas and insights related to what was discussed would rush into my mind.
It can be hard to be the introvert in a meeting. You know you have valuable ideas and insights, but the environment makes sharing difficult. Fortunately, there are few hacks that’ll significantly improve your meeting experiences.
What makes an introvert happy? Really happy?
The answer to that question may surprise you – especially if you’re not an introvert. But it’s worth finding out if you’re friends with, dating, or married to one.
And while there are a variety of introvert personality types, certain things – many of which are FREE – appeal to almost all introverts. So if you’re aiming to make your introvert’s day or you’re a quiet person looking to have some fun, I suggest you try out a few of the following ideas.
What’s the fear of looking bad costing you?
- More friends?
- A date?
- Your dream work?
- Business relationships?
- Wasted potential?
It’s amazing what fear does to us.
This summer, I was scared to death to invite my Facebook friends to like my blog. I know it sounds stupid, but I was certain that as soon as I started asking people to like my page, that would be the end of our relationship for good. They’d think I was an idiot, and my life would be over.
The same thing happened when I was getting ready to launch my podcast. “You know, Bo. No one’s going to want to listen to you,” I told myself. “Who says you even know what you’re talking about anyway?”
When we really want to do something – something we’re passionate about – we’re so good at coming up with excuses. And at the heart of each one is fear. We’re deathly afraid of making fools of ourselves.
But we’ll never achieve what we really want to until we go ahead and put ourselves out there!
The good news is that you don’t have to let fear chain you. If you change the way you think, you can change your future. Proverbs 23:7 says it well: “For as [a person] thinks within himself, so he is.”
INFPs are one of the rarer introvert personality types, making up about four percent of the population. Because they are artistic, sensitive, nonconformists, they’re also quite unique. Over the past 10 years, I’ve gotten to know a few INFPs decently well. And I can attest that there’s a lot to love about these one-of-a-kind introverts.
Here are 7 reasons I love the INFP personality type.
Introverts – we’re a lot more complex than we may seem at first.
This past summer, I finished Susan Cain’s book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking. Cain is easily one of the most widely-known and well-respected experts on introverts. And she’s doing a great job telling the world why introverts are valuable just the way they are.
While I enjoyed most of her book, I did leave with one impression that got me thinking. In her effort to explain introvert strengths, I felt as though she’d described all introverts as a melting pot of various strengths and skills. As a result, I came away from the book thinking, Introverts are creative, analytical, detail-oriented, organized, big-picture thinkers.
In Cain’s defense, that was just the impression that I left with. On the whole, her book did a masterful job addressing and championing the topic of introversion. It’s still doing big things for the cause of introverts. Nevertheless, I couldn’t help but want to set the record straight – at least in my own mind.
So what traits really do set introverts apart? Let’s a take a look.
What really sets an ISTJ apart?
If you’re lucky enough to have an ISTJ as a friend, family member, or coworker, you know first-hand what makes these special individuals so likable. And chances are good you do know an ISTJ considering 16 percent of men and 7 percent of women fit this personality type.
I can personally testify that my life would be sadder without these steady, dependable companions. My wife, dad, and several of my close friends are all ISTJs.
I’m dedicating this post to all there is to love about ISTJs!
Before my wife and I married, the pastor conducting our premarital counseling cautioned us: “You’re going to have to work hard at getting out and staying involved in community because you’re both introverts.”
Boy, was he right! Neither of us is a naturally outgoing person. So we really have to force ourselves out of the house, lest we wind up a pair recluses, forever chained to the living room.
But there’s also a lot to love about an introvert marriage that I never realized before I got hitched. I was mulling this over last night and couldn’t resist sharing with you.
Feast your eyes on 13 reasons why an introvert marriage is a blast!
If you’re an INFJ, you probably know what it’s like to feel misunderstood. We INFJs make up just 1-2% of the population after all.
When I discovered that my Myers-Briggs personality type is INFJ, things that never made sense before started to click. I finally understood why I think so differently than other people and that there’s nothing wrong with me. (These are two of the great benefits of understanding your personality type.)
Because I’m an INFJ and INFJs are so rare, there are a number of things people don’t know about me that I wish they did. So I’ve decided to share a few of those particulars in this post.
These 73 thoughts and observations are in random order. Furthermore, while many of these traits and characteristics are true of most INFJs, please keep in mind that some are unique to me.
Want a life that better suits your INFJ personality? Download the list of My Favorite INFJ Resources to discover how to create it.
A young and old lumberjack once had a competition to see who could chop down more trees. At the start of the day, the youth set out swinging his ax with great energy and vigor. The old man worked much more slowly.
As the day wore on, the youth kept swinging, without losing much momentum. But the old man had to stop every hour to take a break.
As the sun started setting, the competition drew to a close. And a judge began counting the number of trees each man had felled. After a short while, he announced the outcome: the old man had won. Shocked, the young man asked his elder how he’d done it.
The old lumberjack explained. “Each time I took a break, I sharpened my ax. Then, when I went back to work, my newly sharpened blade multiplied my efforts.”
As introverts, we’d do well to heed this lesson. If we want to have more energy and be more effective, we need to schedule regular breaks.
As a Christian introvert, do you know what you really need to grow in your walk with the Lord?
If you’re like me, you probably resist this. But there’s no denying you need it to be whole.