Do you remember the day you found out you were an INFJ?
The day I learned I was an INFJ was a turning point for me. I started to feel less like a messed-up, broken outsider and more like a valid human being with unique perspectives and gifts to contribute to the world. I started moving down the path of self-discovery, and the further I went, the more my life started to make sense.
- My core strengths and how to leverage them
- How to live in a world where people don’t understand me
- How to do work I love
- How to deal with stress, depression, and anxiety
- How to develop fulfilling relationships
- How to act on my ideas and visions
- And more…
Learning about my INFJ personality has made my life significantly better, and I believe learning more about your personality will improve your life too!
That’s why I wrote my most recent eBook, The INFJ Personality Guide: Understand yourself, reach your potential, and live a life of purpose. I want you to understand yourself better than you have before, appreciate and leverage your gifts, and find solutions to common INFJ struggles.
I’m currently selling my book on Amazon, but for a limited time, I’m giving it away because I want you to experience the same “Ahas!”, insights, and revelations that made such a significant difference in my life.
I’ll leave you with an excerpt from the introduction of my book.
I’ve known that I’m different for quite some time. For most of my life, I’ve felt accepted and normal, but my thought processes and standards have always contrasted with the people around me. When I was in school, I felt compelled to follow the rules and do what was right. I tried to treat other people with kindness because I thought that’s how everyone, even the people I didn’t like being around, should be treated.
In college and later as I started working, I really noticed how different I was. I enjoyed getting lost in textbooks and completing assignments but stayed away from parties. I felt a strong compulsion to follow the rules and do what was right, but I also felt a strong pull away from doing what society expected me to do. I had little desire to follow the traditional path of getting a job, buying a house, and taking care of a lawn. That seemed both ephemeral and meaningless to me.
I often wrestled with purpose and meaning. For instance, I had a hard time feeling happy in my job. I kept asking myself, “Is this it? Is this all that life has to offer? How am I making a difference?” I also longed to find a creative outlet where I could work by myself for hours at a time but, in the end, still help people.
I had an ideal vision of how things could be and several ideas of how to make it happen, but I had a hard time finding other people who thought like me. I shared my feeling with family members who patiently listened to me, but they just couldn’t relate.
Then, I started reading about Myers-Briggs personality types. I couldn’t get enough of it. Sites like personalityjunkie.com kept pulling me back like a magnet. When I eventually discovered that I was an INFJ, everything started to click. I felt understood and validated all at once. There was nothing wrong with me!
I also remember how good it felt to figure out what was motivating me and understand why I do the things I do and desire the things I desire. Everything started to click, and when it did, I began to move in a direction better suited for me. Now, for the first time, I feel like I’m living a life that’s in closer alignment with who I really am, and I’m ecstatic.
The Goal of the INFJ Personality Guide
I want this book to give you the gift of self-understanding. I want you to feel the freedom I felt when I finally realized that there’s nothing wrong with me and that my gifts are valuable. Furthermore, I want you to be able to explain to others why you do what you do and appreciate what you appreciate and to chart a course for your life that makes sense for you.
I know this book won’t answer all of your questions, but I hope that it sheds more light on your incredible INFJ gifts and strengths. I’ve written it to inform, encourage, and guide you.
This book differs from other INFJ personality titles in that it’s written by an INFJ (and a male INFJ at that!). To illustrate certain aspects of INFJ thought and life, I draw on my personal life experience and share vignettes about other people I know. I intend for these stories to help you, but if they don’t resonate with you, feel free to ignore them and hold onto the parts of the book that are relevant.
Finally, The INFJ Personality Guide approaches the INFJ personality through the lens of Myers-Briggs personality types. I am a certified Myers-Briggs practitioner and have tried hard to present the INFJ preferences and functions (which you will learn more about in the coming chapters) as clearly, accurately, and simply as I can. You will find that other sources and articles may present the same ideas and concepts somewhat differently.